June 4, 2018 Blog No Comments

It’s not been an easy time lately. We’ve had too much going on and it seems everyone around us has been in the same place. The energy has been tense and frazzled. Yet, I’ve noticed that honoring your connections makes life flow – even in tough times. How does this work?

We’ve had a dear friend die, there have been ongoing medical issues for our son, I had my meditation workshop and conducted two out of town training/consultations and Lee’s had 5 gigs and rehearsals, while dealing with a difficult business environment. How do you get through all this and still feel like life is grand? I realized it is through honoring your connections.

See if these points are helpful to you:


No matter what you go through, it’s important to always honor those who are up close. While that may seem obvious, it not always easy. Your loved ones are often the ones who receive the brunt of your stress.  They are going through it too because of their connection to you. Here’s how you can honor them.

Keep the communication flowing – that means even when the chips are down.  When you bottle things up it will come out in tension that gets expressed in hurtful ways. Talk about what you are feeling, what you are concerned about and keep the dialog going. Ask for help and reciprocate frequently. Say please and thank you. When you treat people closest to you respectfully, they will be more supportive and helpful.

Help others understand what you are going through so their response to you is congruent to your situation. 


What are your other sources of support?  Do you meditate, exercise, do yoga, play music, walk, dance, have coffee with friends? What often happens is when you’re stressed, all these things take a back seat. That’s a big mistake.

Your connection to yourself and the things you love need to be honored even more when times are tough. I’ve found that my mediation practice is my greatest ally when I’m stressed. It allows me to clear my mind, relax my body and more importantly, it gives me new perspectives on my situation that help me cope. My husband plays music. I’m always happy to hear it for I know the release it provides.

Your connection to other means of support and self-care are more important than ever during difficult times.


If the concept of watching the flow of energy seems abstract, let me explain. All of us and everything we are involved with has an energetic signature pattern. You can feel it when you walk into a room. You know if the energy is upbeat and positive, stagnant and dark, or tense and uncomfortable. This information comes to you in an instant. When you pay attention to it, it can guide you going forward.

What is the energy surrounding you saying – is it supporting your best interests? If you want to move through difficult times, then recognize your connections to things that are weighing you down verse uplifting. Staying stuck in negative energy will keep you stuck, just as moving into situations that are more upbeat will transform how you feel, think and cope to the positive.

We’ve been surrounding ourselves with positive situations that help us stay connected to the what we love in life


If you notice you are stagnant or in situations that create conflict or don’t support your best interests, it’s important to move yourself back into the flow. What does that mean and how do you do it?

Flowing energy is reflected in situations that are optimistic and going well.  Go to a lively coffee shop, be with friends who see the positive or sit in a lovely spot under a tree to help shift your energy.  Find people or situations where things are positive and flowing freely and join in. You will pick up on their energy and soon be able to align yourself back into the flow.

Flowing energy is optimistic, it’s the leading edge of change and you can put yourself there by switching the people and situations you are in.

We all have periods of time when we are stressed and challenged. By paying attention to how you respond to others and where you place yourself, you can keep yourself connected to what keeps your life flowing positively. When you honor the people who love you with kindness and clear communication, it stops the flow of negative energy from spreading and amplifying. When you engage in the activities that support you, you keep yourself from dipping into stress reaction cycles. And when you pay attention to the energy around you and make choices to keep yourself connected to where the positive flow of energy is going, you can keep yourself bobbing in the flow of life.

Are these things you’d like to learn more about? This is the kind of thing I teach in individual coaching and counseling and in my workshops. See my website www.spectrumtransformation.com for more information and reach out. Use my Free Consultation button to connect with me- I’d love to hear from you.

Written by Connie Milligan, LCSW
If there is anything I’ve expressed that speaks to you, I’d love to hear from you. You can reach me at my email, connie [at] conniemilligan [dot] com