April 9, 2018 Blog No Comments

We all do it – we worry about things. We anxiously wonder what will happen next, if it’s going to work out, and if we’ll do a good job to the point we’ve created a mess in our mind and body. Given I’ve been doing some of this myself and have switched my thinking, I thought it might be helpful to share – how to transform worry into something productive

It’s a busy time of year for me and I expect for most of you too. The funding cycles for government budget approval processes are happening now, we’re working on getting our court diversion program funded and taxes are due. Our new non-profit has events coming up next week and there’s a lot to prepare. My out of state consulting starts this week and I’ve got a new training program to create. My mind is whirling around all of it.

Here are the reframed thoughts that are helping me stay focused and productive. See if they can help you too.

Worry Is Anticipating the Worst Outcome

When we worry about the future, we are actually preparing ourselves for what we don’t want. Wow, that’s a realization that stops me in my tracks. From an energetic perspective, it is absolutely the wrong thing to do.

Given our thoughts send out an energetic signal that attract things of a similar nature, worrisome thoughts focused on what we don’t want can quickly multiply. As they increase in detail, the resulting anxiety and body tension builds and those feelings can be interpreted as confirmation that you really have something to worry about as some awful outcome must surely follow. This is a bad habit, a familiar pattern of thought that can develop over a lifetime. It is also something that can and must be stopped if you want a happier life.

You have to accept that worry is a destructive thought pattern that can be redirected.

Reframe the Issue as Something Important

At the first sign of worry, recognize that it’s a sign that the topic is important to you. It’s helpful to know that you are very interested in how this issue transpires, and because it’s important, you want what is best. Isn’t that a better way of looking at it?

Breath a sigh of relief and relax into recognizing all the reasons why it’s important. The more you can personalize it and make it real for you, not an abstraction, but something that has a tangible impact, the more you are imaging the reality you really want. Then, ask yourself if this is something you can actually exercise personal control over? Find the locus of control- if it’s not there, like worrying about the weather, you have to let the thought go. Be clear that you can only focus on what you can control or impact.

If it’s important to you and you have control over the outcome, you suddenly have a blueprint on what to do next.

Imagine the Outcome You Want

Now comes the easy part, start imagining how you want things to go. What is the best possible outcome, see it in detail. Let your imagination go into all the best possible scenarios and keep repeating the ones you like the most.

You have made a very important energetic shift that will stir your creative imagination and boost your feelings to the positive. This gives you new energy to imagine what needs to happen for this wonderful outcome to come to pass. See yourself in whatever role you have created and feel the happiness of a positive outcome. You are now creating the outcome you want.

Imagining the best possible outcome is like a dress rehearsal to make it happen.

Begin the Tasks You’ve Imagined Yourself Doing

With the new energy from envisioning a great outcome, you are poised to take action. What is required for you to make this happen, so things will be exactly what you want?

If you were hoping it’d just magically happen – sorry to break the news – you now have work to do. But instead of it being awful, as you first anticipated, your positive thoughts carry you forward with new energy.  That awful scenario is the one worry generates, while anticipating a great outcome helps you organize your task toward success. As you work toward the imagined successful outcome, the dynamics completely change to the positive.

Get excited about what you’re doing – and ask that it be easy – the work you do is bringing your imagined outcome to reality.

I have to add, I wrote this in record time. Why? Because I asked that it be easy. Remember, I’m really busy right now. In fact, my worried scenario said “I don’t have time to write a blog this week, oh no, what am I going to do?”. When I changed my thoughts and realized the opportunity in front of me to write about this process I quickly implemented, I was able to be my own example. Creating change in your thoughts can happen in an instant and just as quickly can create a new vibration and feeling state. All of this happens in a flash on an energetic level. The positive change and outcome you seek happens in your imagination first, the better feelings and actions follow. Try it and see if this doesn’t work for you!

If you’d like assistance learning how to change your worried thought patterns into something productive and helpful, I’d love to help. My Transformation Coaching and Counseling is designed to make this an easy and fun process. See my website www.spectrumtransformation.com for more information and use my Free Consultation link to reach out. I’d be great to hear from you!

Written by Connie Milligan, LCSW
If there is anything I’ve expressed that speaks to you, I’d love to hear from you. You can reach me at my email, connie [at] conniemilligan [dot] com