December 14, 2016 Blog No Comments

connectionsWe had a series of wonderful experiences during a recent trip to NYC. We went there to hear a friend play music, that’s a story itself. But, what we ended up experiencing exceeded any expectations. We were simply paying attention to honoring the connections we’ve made with friends over the years and lovely synchronicities kept happening.

We’d reach out to contact someone and without much effort, wonderful rendezvouses were possible. We were able to see several very special people and also introduce them to others. The connections kept unfolding over our time in the city, leaving us feeling very happy and honored.

In my work as a Transformational Life Coach, there are several principles that help determine whether a person is on the right track or not. One is paying attention to the flow of events – is it easy and effortless or does it require pushing and pulling to make it successful? The more effortless it is, the more it signifies that you’re in the flow and your path will open in front of you.

A second principles has to do with the how the Law of Attraction is working in your life. Are you attracting a flow of good events, people, and situations that are consistent with what you say you want in your life? The more congruent they are, the more you are a match for what you are seeking and the more it will continue to flow to you.

A third principle, The Law of Cause and Effect, involves noticing the impact of cause and effect relationships. Nothing is random, every situation has a sequence of seemingly disparate events that creates an end effect. Our role in influencing the sequence of events is more significant than we believe. The more we maintain a positive view and active role in making things happen, the more control and impact we will have in making events positive and life enhancing.

This short trip was a great lesson on the power of these principles. Here are some of the things I noticed that you may want to consider for yourself.


The music we went to hear was the masterful percussion performed by our friend, Gideon Alorwoyie, who we visited in Ghana. Gideon trained the now famous modern 20th century composer, Steve Reich, in Ghana in the ’70’s. The piece Mr. Reich wrote, called “Percussion”, as a result of that visit, was his first critically acclaimed minimalist composition. Gideon played his music alongside Reich’s, to honor Mr. Reich’s 80th birthday. In this manner, “like attracted like” was being demonstrated – both musicians were honored.

We were also able to introduce our NYC friend, a young music composer, to Gideon. Watching their intense, mutually interested conversation brought such joy. Will a new alliance be created here that will help launch another brilliant career? I’m ever hopeful.

By hosting both of our musical friends many times in the past, we could make connections between them now. We were in the flow, like attracting like and we were the cause of a positive sequence of events.

Create a flow of positive inter-connections and you create joy.


Another wonderful connection made on this trip was being able to see Chantul Rimpoche, a Bon Buddhist llama who has positively influenced my thinking. As with our musician friends, we had helped host him when he came to conduct a workshop. We hoped, but certainly didn’t think it’d be possible to see him.

Not only did we see him, we introduced him to our NY friend, who is interested in Buddhism, had tea together, were given a lesson on the history of the order, heard his chanting and were given a blessing. But that wasn’t all, we also met His Holiness, the head llama of the order, and received his blessing as well – a high honor. This gave us a wonderful expansive experience, creating new bonds that will strengthen our relationships. Will there be more connections between these new friends? I love to consider that possibility.

By focusing on what’s important to you and making new connections, you literally create and expand more of it.


The lesson that was the most poignant was watching the power of the Law of Cause and Effect in action. We had made the relationships with our musician and Buddhist friends a priority over the years and they were a priority for this visit as well. Because of our history together, we could create interactions between them that wouldn’t have happened otherwise. This is the point – it makes life rich and meaningful.

When we take ourselves and what’s important to us seriously, that singleness of focus allows us to rise above the usual distractions to make things happen more effortlessly. You’re the creator of your life, not simply a pawn in trivial life events. There is more satisfaction and joy when you create what you want to see happen.

Create and expand the connections between the people and things you love and watch it create the world you want.

How are these principles operating in your life? Do you see evidence of things flowing to you the way you’d like? Do you see evidence of the expansion of the things you place your attention on through the Law of Attraction? Are you aware of how powerful you are to create the life you want, so the effects of what you seek are coming to you, rather than feeling unduly influenced by things out of your control? I hope you are. That’s what makes life a satisfying journey!

If you’d like to create more of these experiences, the underlying principles can be easily learned. They simply require a process of self-discovery and mastery. If you’re interested in knowing more, I welcome your inquiry at my website Use the Free Consultation button to reach me. I’d love to hear from you.


Written by Connie Milligan, LCSW
If there is anything I’ve expressed that speaks to you, I’d love to hear from you. You can reach me at my email, connie [at] conniemilligan [dot] com