December 24, 2019 Blog No Comments

This holiday can be a glorious time for family unity or it can be tough if your family is not close or unified. For years now, I’ve been hosting a holiday party for friends and a holiday dinner for friends without family nearby. It makes for a lively way to share the spirit of the season. I have a lot to be grateful for.

The words of Stephen Stills’s song “Love The One You’re With” came to mind as I thought about this.* It’s a timeless message. Let me share it.

If you’re down and confused
And you don’t remember who you’re talkin’ to
Concentration slips away
‘Cause your baby is so far away

Well there’s a rose, in the fisted glove
And the eagle flies with the dove
And if you can’t be with the one you love, honey
Love the one you’re with

Don’t be angry, don’t be sad
Don’t sit cryin’ over good times you had
There’s a girl, right next to you
And she’s just waiting for something to do


Did the words and lyrics bring the tune to mind – it’s so recognizable. And did you notice how it speaks to the power of polarity? “There is a rose in a fisted glove, and the eagle flies with the dove”.  In every situation there is it’s opposite, if you’re not happy in your current situation, look for what is right next to you that you do like. Find it and change the way you are thinking and feeling.

In my work with the courts, I grieve for the people who are sitting in jail and shelters this holiday or who have no one to be with. Its such a difficult reality. I wish to send this message to all who are in less than ideal situations. Find something to enjoy – and find a way to “love the one you’re with”.

I’m going to be brief to get back to my holiday. I hope you have a wonderful time sharing with those you love or at least connecting and loving the one you’re with.

If you need support to learn how to find the positive perspective to your reality, or how to change it, you are welcome to reach out. I’m happy to be a support as my work is designed to point you in the right direction.  See my website and use my Free Consultation form to reach me. I wish you only the best.

*Steven Stills – Love The One You’re With



Written by Connie Milligan, LCSW
If there is anything I’ve expressed that speaks to you, I’d love to hear from you. You can reach me at my email, connie [at] conniemilligan [dot] com